A Conversation with Elizabeth
2017
Marriage vs. Single

From:           Larry
To:             Elizabeth
Sent:           Sunday, May 14, 2017 6:57 PM
Subject:        RE: Just Curious What Your Thoughts Are
 
Elizabeth,
  You ask good question, something I have asked myself and thought about for some time.  One hand I was married for 20 years but equally have lived alone for 20 years (actually more alone than married).  Living with another has benefits and drawbacks.  One hand you have someone to share things with on a daily basis, to do things with, to explore new things with.  On the other hand it is always a compromise in that you can’t just do what you want, when you want.  You always have to consider the other and sometimes do things they want when you would rather do something else.   On one hand, yes I miss having someone to share things with, on the other I really like the freedom do to what and when I want.  I was tired and a bit lazy yesterday so just hung out, took a morning nap, an afternoon nap and had a glass of wine at 5 pm.  With someone else you would have to consider how they feel and what they want.  They might have been energized and wanted to go out and do something.   So you compromise.   I sometimes think that I avoid becoming involved with women at this time in my life as they would have expectations about a relationship which I wouldn’t want.   Actually for the past year or two I also avoid becoming involved because I am moving back to Gainesville and I wouldn’t want to get in a relationship and find that she wouldn’t want to come with me so I just avoid the situation.   
 
  If I really felt like I met that one special life’s true love perhaps it would be different.  I would say that it is just a myth but I have seen it truly happen to others but don’t expect it to every happen to me.
 
Larry

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