A Conversation with Elizabeth
1999
Re: Also busy

From:          Elizabeth 
To:            LMixson@PEC.com
Sent:          Tuesday, July 20, 1999 4:07 PM
Subject:       Re: Also busy
 
I just finished ordering a zillion articles (or so it feels) on magnetic resonance imaging of the breast and just for the heck of it checked my e-mail again.  I got curious what new game you got that is/was so mesmerizing.  I was trying to follow that Sokarov on-line world chess game, but I've missed the past few moves.  It was very interesting, but for all I know it might have been won the last week, because I haven't been in to check. I don't know if D.C. has this, but in AL you can do a "legal separation."  It is not just separating like you are now, but legally so.  The trouble is it can be as costly as a divorce.  There are some positive and negatives.  Spousal insurance coverage. can sometimes continue. That is a big plus. In AL., it can change the inheritance, so neither spouse would inherit from the other.  Mostly its not a good thing except in a few special circumstances, like medical care benefits etc.  My experience is that even when people "left me" they would still get jealous or yanked out of shape about "others" coming over for dinner, etc.  Divorce in itself can be costly.  If you do it, it also might behoove you to be the first to file, since she moved out on you, but I don't know D.C. law.  We do not have "no fault" divorce here, so the first to file gets to state the initial reason.
 
D.C. might have the mutual no fault divorce. You have to have a reason in Alabama.  Well, I think its too bad,if that happens--all those years.  I would be sick about it myself.  To me, being together when you are young is one thing, but having someone in your middle and esp. later years may be even more important.  I've never really understood how people DECIDE not to have a relationship.  To me a relationship either happens, or it doesn't--its more a spontaneous thing. But maybe "relationship" is just a code word for "sex." I don't like being in a relationship where I want one thing and the other person doesn't, for example if I don't have any interest in sex, but the other person does,or vice versa.  Oh well.  The only relationship I have is fantasizing about one of my law school instructors, but I think he's only 30 something.  Maybe at the most 40.  Oh well, Liz Taylor took up with a 20 year old when she was 60.  Elizabeth

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