A Conversation with Elizabeth
2009
RE: Ruminating

From:          Larry
To:            Elizabeth
Date:          Tuesday, 18 October
Subject:       Re: Ruminating
 
Elizabeth,
 
Wow, that was a lot of ruminating, wondering and reflection.  Thank you for telling me that you thought I was of the most interesting and fascinating people you have known.  I have always wondered about what you thought of me and I was a bit surprised to hear that.  About some of the things you said…
Actually I surprised my marriage lasted as long as it did.  I think I knew after few years that it would last but we both tried to make it work.  There were things we both got from each other but over all we were not really compatible.  An example was I feel a need to help and take care of someone and Julie needed taken care of.  Julie also never had a really stable family life and in me she found stability.  One of your comments and observations about me also played out a part in my relationship with Julie.  I do see myself as independent and not “needing” anyone.  On the other hand I want and enjoy being with someone as it makes life more full.  In the last few years Julie and I went to couples therapy and one of the things that came out was she didn’t feel needed by me.  Well she was right, but I chose to be with her for 20 years.  On the dating site, Chemistry, I say in my profile I don’t want a woman that “needs” a relationship but “wants” a relationship.  You were right about my family, or at least my mother, not approving of you.  She has never seem to approve of women I have date including Julie which was a long sore point in our relationship.  My mother always had this picture of me in her mind of me marrying a nice Christian girl, going to church and having a bunch of kids.  Oh, well, we have to live our own life and which is not necessarily what our parents want.  Staying physically fit is important to me and so I work at it.  As I get older it I, of course, can’t do the things I could do when I was younger.  That is one thing that is so great about yoga, one can do it into old age.  I heard about a recent study that they found that yoga is not only good for your joints and muscles, but for your arteries as well

Sorry to hear you are not well and hope you get better soon.
Take care,
Larry

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