A Conversaton with Elizabeth
1998
Selective recall

From:          larry.m.mixson@bvs.com
Date:          Wed, 25 Feb 1998 09:26:31 -0800
To:            Elizabeth
Subject:       Re: Selective recall
 
Yes I remember the on-off relationship with Fred. I felt somewhat strange when you took me a couple of times out to his place to stay the night when he was away. I now remember vaguely you living with Ann. At the time of that first date I would have had my souped up '68 Camaro. I am not sure why I would have asked you to drive, very strange. I believe you about coming by to see you at AGH for it is something I would do, I just don't remember it.
Ah yes, Wendy. I was in love with her. She was not pre-med but was in computer science.[1] We took many a class together and worked together at the Computer Services Dept. It was Wendy's boyfriend who was in medical school. Wendy lived with her high school sweetheart, they got engaged and then married and he became a doctor. Like something out of a story book. I became very good friends with them over the years but lost touch after they moved away. I occasionally try to find them using the web but have not been successful. Wendy is the one who got me into modern dance [link] and also instigated me getting my all white cat.

And then there is my family... Do you know the only picture I have of you was taken at my parents house. You never wanted your picture taken. My parents were most always disapproving of the women I dated, you were no exception. It does not surprise me that it hurt. My mother always wanted me to marry some "good Christian girl". My wife also was very hurt by my mother and went though years of trying to get along with my mother but finally gave up and then refused to go visit them for probably eight years. Only the past couple of years has Julie been willing to go with me to see them. My mother has accepted that Julie is not going away and now treats her tolerably. My dad on the other hand likes Julie and Julie likes him or at least gets along with him OK. My mother was and still is very dominate in the family. Julie and I have had many discussions about our "families of origin" as she says. The relationships with ones parents are important to understand if one wants to understand oneself.

I also love gardening and flowers. We live in a townhouse so I know what you mean about limited gardening space. We do plant flowers all around out front, in several planters out back, and in planters on the deck. The crocuses and daffodils are just coming up. We then will plant pansies, followed by a variety of summer flowers, and then fall flowers. In the spring we will make our annual trip down to the tidal basin and see the cherry blossoms followed a few weeks later by the azaleas at the National Arboretum. Washington is very beautiful in the spring. We also used to make several trips a year to the National Arboretum on Capital Hill but its been closed for repairs the past year.

Do not worry, I will not just show up one day. I understand that you find it disconcerting. If you are ever in Washington D.C. though feel free to look me up.

Larry

p.s. Being a book lover have you checked out www.amazon.com, the worlds biggest on-line book store?

[1] I miss read what Elizabeth said, she said Wendy’s boyfriend was pre-med.

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