A Conversation with Elizabeth
1998
Really: Bad Day

From:          LMixson
To:            Elizabeth
Sent:          Monday, October 26, 1998 10:37 AM
Subject:       Really: Bad Day
 
What a pain to have to move from a place you really like because of neighbors.  The closer are packed together the more likelihood for friction between them.  I have been fortunate to not lived in apartments but only houses or townhouses.  In a town house you only have neighbors on each side which can be a problem but not as likely as in an apartment living with neighbors above, below, and on the sides.  We have had a few minor issues with neighbors but in the end it either worked out or at least we grew a tolerance for each other.
 
I had a really bad week last week.  First I got a sinus infection which I went to the doctor for and got some antibiotics which, finally, today seem to be clearing up.  Worst than that though is that in Julie and my last therapy session Julie announced that she wanted to move out.  Things between us have been up and down the past few years but we were making some real progress this past year on most of the issues.  In the past couple of sessions Julie brought up some issues which I thought we had mostly already worked through but clearly not to her satisfaction.  I knew we had more work to do and we would continue to do so.  I didn't expect that she would want to move out.  Well I went through periods of anger, depression, relief and acceptance.  I would expect it will take several weeks for her to find a place and make the move.  In the mean time I am sure it is going to be somewhat difficult and tense for both of us.
 
For some good news I delivered the system I have been working on to the ATF last week and spent last Friday setting it up at the ATF.  I will probably be going down to the ATF several days this week and next to do configuration, testing and user training.
 
Larry

Yes, it was a really bad day, while on the surface, Julie and my relationship seem to be doing ok, underneath there were issues that had been coming out in our couples therapy sessions like the thing about me not getting angry. When the therapist asked me about things I didn’t like or irritated me about Julie I had quite a number of things, but nothing all that big, but in the past few years had started to add up but I was still committed to the relationship, it surprised me that Julie wanted to move out.

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